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Introduction and Invitation

The Concept of Toxic Shame

Medical Illness

Raised in Shame: Identity

Not Meeting Expectations

Carrying the Blame for Others

Disability

Identities: Our Stories and Our Selves

Communities

On Being Gay

Hope vs. Fear

Abandonment

Core Beliefs of Shame

Hiding vs. Healing

Recognizing Signs of Toxic Shame

On Parenting a Troubled Child

Shame and Bodies

Having Nothing to Say

The Struggle to Heal

Daily Practices of Healing

 

Introduction

This copyrighted recording was created by the staff of the Center for Pastoral Counseling of Virginia. It is a gift from us to you. We hope you will copy and share this recording with others....spreading what we hope will be a grace-full and healing word for all who suffer from toxic shame. The text of this recording may be viewed online. This recording was made possible by a generous gift from a client who, in addition to his work with his pastoral counselor, read and studied and listened to tapes of the Dutch Roman Catholic priest, Henri Nouwen. 

He said upon giving the gift to create these recordings, "I first needed to hear God's so mighty and caring invitation apart from and above all I had previously known. And because of how my heart's ears were first broken--and broken still more by me over thirty years--I need to hear that voice incarnate, pressed up close to all that I am and with a "rewind" button for every time I miss it. My prayer is that you can listen to the recorded thoughts often and that you will experience both the life-starting surprise and re-creative joy that flowed through the woman at the well when her new friend showed her that she could answer God's gentle invitation by simply and honestly stating her own story, including her shame."

 


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